EXCUSE ME

So am trying not to start all my post with “hey,hi,hello” and I think I have just succeeded in achieving that lol. It’s been ages since I last posted anything and yes at first I convinced myself it was cause I didn’t have good images to accompany my message (osheyy messenger) lol,but then on turning 23,yes I know right, gradually turning to a wife material in Nigerian life code. So I got a new camera as my 23rd birthday gift,trust I was excited with the prospect of having better images and I imagined I would shoot everyday even,sadly this wasn’t to be. I made up more and more excuses why I couldn’t post,I did a couple shoots and then I made up excuses that cause the picture weren’t edited I couldn’t share them on here,cause I wanted a particular standard and i allowed myself get overwhelmed by the things that don’t necessarily matter.

I decided to write today about EXCUSES,I had a lot of other things I wanted to talk about but I realize one of my greatest challenges in life is consistency(staying through to the course). I have always been one to easily whip out an excuse for why things aren’t how I feel they should be. Why this happened this way and I was always cleverly shifting the blame from myself to others, and I only recently realized that it was a big problem I had as am sure I have a few more culprits here too lol (listen to me,looking for others to join in,don’t want to take the fall alone,see what am saying. Lol)but am sure some of us are like me too.

It’s always easier to throw someone else under the bus,let them take the blame for it,it makes us feel better,eases our conscience.

What do you understand by an Excuse?

-as defined by google : it is a reason or explanation put forward to defend or justify a fault or offense. The key words here for me are “justify” and “offense”. We are always aware of our wrong doings and know that it is wrong but to avoid dealing with the guilt,to avoid working on it,we tend to justify our actions and which most likely involves shifting blames,when this becomes a habit it becomes detrimental to our relationship with ourselves and eventually others cause it prevents growth and taking responsibility.

They always say the first step to get better is identifying and acknowledging that there’s an issue and willingness to work on it. Everyone is guilty of making excuses one way or the other,at some point in our lives but the fact is an excuse remains an excuse,it doesn’t change anything. Excuses are a waste of time,they don’t fix your problems,they only hold you back and won’t help you or your future,take it from me. I had made so many excuses for why I never posted up,why I never took certain things seriously and now when I look back,all I see are plans on papers,unachieved and some never even worked on. Making a conscious effort to ditch making excuses for why I can’t and start seeing why I must,what I can do and I know it’s a tough road but hey that’s what we are all built for; overcoming obstacles. I am sure you have faced certain situations at different phases of your life that you thought “oh well,this is the END” but hey where’s that bottleneck today??? Gone right? So quit the excuses and start taking them heads on, I was going to postpone posting today,cause I just got back from jogging and the body was weak,sleep was calling my name in “idris Alba’s voice” but I remembered that a devoted reader of my blog had screenshotted my last post and sent to me yesterday,that had sparked up my spirit,cause I hadn’t realized how much my post meant to a few people and honestly I felt inspired to put out something no matter what,and what best to talk about than this. I would like to believe that there are a few of us out there that are also struggling with making excuses and shifting blames and I looked up a few things that I have started incorporating

1: Learn about yourself and your excuses

2: Take ownership/responsibility

3: Overcoming obstacles

I will be back with more updates on how I am doing so far and hopefully with a new slate and do better,how are you guys dealing with excuses and blaming game,help a sister out!!!!!

My pictures were taken by the amazing chukwuma and I hope you enjoy this post as much as I did writing it. Don’t forget to share and leave your comments,you never know who you could be helping.

Two piece are new items from me trying to dabble into fashion designing,what do you guys think? Also am so in love with this hat,you need to hear the way I scream at home if I don’t find it where I kept it,lol .

I love you all,but God loves you more

Xoxoxo

Obeh sylvia eloho idara

O.S.E.I

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I have a confession

my heart is perfect,only cause you dwell in it “

Hi loves,

It’s been a wonderful end of the year and I know you all were up to a lot this last few days of 2017, I am so happy that we all made it to 2018, whoop whoop 🤟🏾🤟🏾🎄🤪💃🏽💃🏽.

Well I have been surfing the net all through this festive period and a lot today,what I noticed is that a lot of people seem to have felt that 2017 was the “best worst year” for them,they talked about facing challenges,losing friends and literally just surviving every day and how happy they were that the year was over and there were others who felt the year wasn’t that bad to them. Well for most part of last year I struggled with finding myself,my balance and taking care of myself. I actually just lived through the year,I didn’t have any plans for it but all in all I started a business,rounded up my Nysc programme,lost connection with unnecessary associates,got closer to God and re-evaluated my life. Today is the first day in the new year and I didn’t even know I was going to be posting anything on the blog until now and I just decided to go for it. (That’s my mantra for the new year by the way: just do it,do it now not later ).

I have a confession, yes I know you have been wondering what it is from my heading but calm your inquisitive minds,it’s nothing that serious but it’s an issue I have struggled with. PROCRASTINATION for a long time now has truly stolen a lot from me,I had tried to work it out myself but I even procrastinated working on my procrastination, can u beat that?

So this new year,i am taking a conscious step to work on my consistency in life,blogging,self care and every other areas I would love to see a positive change in.I know i am not the only one who suffers from this and I would love for any and all who can help to share with me tips on how they are dealing with theirs. For blogging I have taken a pledge to post every Sunday,tuesday and Thursday. I am putting this out there as a disclaimer so that if by any chance I don’t live up,you all can take me to court literally lol

I know that means I have to post up tomorrow but that’s only just pushing me to do better,think harder and work smarter to bring you all the best of me and help me work on my procrastination.

So guys get back to me on what you think I could do,if you are having similar issues we could totally work it out together cause a support system always helps. In other news I had the best banga soup today and am still reliving the taste in my mouth.

What have you all been up to this new year? What are your goals ? If you are new to my blog,kindly check out my previous post,there just might be something in there for you!!! Yes you!!

Happy new year squaaddddd

I love you but God loves you more

Xoxoxo

Obeh Sylvia

Gifts 🎁

“ Instead of drifting along like a leaf in a river,understand who you are and how you come across to people,what kind of impact you have on the people around you and the community around you and the world,so that when you go out,you can feel the positive difference you are making”.

— Jane Fonda

This quote got me thinking in different directions this morning guys,the first line speaks it all. “INSTEAD of DRIFTING along like a LEAF in a RIVER. This could mean different things to people but,there’s an angle that’s quite more audible than others and it is .

For a lot of us between the ages of 18-29,we spend most of our agile years just drifting in the sea of activities that have no business in helping us know who we are,our talents and gifts,how to build them and be better.

Finding yourself doesn’t come to an end you know ? Cause everyday we change but we most times tend to forget this,you learn new things about yourself as time goes,don’t try to have it all figured out now. It is a process,every step is to redefine,remind,reconcile,rebrand you and make you stronger for the next phase.

I had struggled a lot trying to figure out what I really liked, at first I thought it was acting,then makeup,followed by photography,and many more,I know I have some of you that can relate.

It was confusing and I really wanted to know what it was that was it for me,I took finding your gift quiz’s and all but I was just stuck. Not until recently,I spoke to a good friend of mine Nkem,we talked about a lot that day and I was delighted,I guess the saying “talking heals” is totally true,cause i felt a different calm onwards. I went back and looked at everything I have ever really done consistently since I was little and it clicked 💡WRITING. I was that one child in my house that loved to write,literature,government and English were my best subjects and I enjoyed talking,I would write about everything and nothing,I owned so many notebooks,notepads,pen and all,even as am adult,whenever I find notepads and pen I can’t help buying.

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I had to equip myself and Channel my energy there,and work a seamless string between this gift and every other one and see how I can make an impact and leave an imprint.

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ave gifts that have been bestowed on us,we spend a lot of time misdirected and end up struggling for a long time,trust me I went through that path too,don’t beat yourself up,just take out time,go on a self discovery journey. YOU ALONE TIME,tune away from the crowd,the noise,the distractions and think of YOU,what’s best for you!! What YOU like and want!!

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t one thing that has stayed with you through the years,that’s your gift and make sure it’s what you are passionate about,cause if not it’s not it and it will suffer in the end,but if it is then you will be up like me 3am doing it without complain (like I am writing my heart out now 2:43am), work and make it the best version,then help others too,cause it’s only in helping others that you help yourself.

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ing to faith didn’t start with a leap,but rather a series of stagger,from what seems like one safe place to another.Each prepared me for the next leaf in which I would land,and in this way I moved across the swamp of doubt and fear”.

—– Anne Lamott

Let’s do this quick excercise that helps you to figure out your gifts.

Get a piece of paper 📝 and pen,

Now write out : All your successes both personal and career related,then see if there’s s common theme,if there’s one talent or schemes that runs through most of your achievements,chances are that’s your gift 🎁💝⚡️

Hey guys sorry I jumped into the post like that,I was in so inspired lol, it’s nice to have you visiting my blog today,how far na?? So you guys just boned me abi? Anyways thanks for stop by and staying back,cause I hope you don’t think you are going anywhere again?? Lol 😂,if you are new to the blog, ekaàbò,àkwaábà,welcome!!! Let me know what your think your gifts are? How did you know? And what have you done so far to groom it,I would really love to hear from everyone of you.

I love you but God loves you more

Xoxo. Sassy

Photo credits @ahmedmoore

Location: Lekki conservation centre

Outfit: kimono @tashagiliesofficial

White pleated skirt @topfashion

Makeup : @sassybd

Travel diaries-A City Planned : ABUJA “ planning always keeps you several steps ahead, don’t fail to plan” Happy sunshine beautiful ones, How has your week been so far, it’s Thursday which means the weekend is calling my namesexually,lol. If this is your first timevisiting the blog then you are most welcome 🤘🏾🤘🏾🍻🥂🍾 So I had always wanted to post up something about Abuja, I moved there when I finished uni two years ago, wow someone is getting old oh chaii. I only wish I had taken this blog thing more seriously then,cause trust me abuja has a lot of places for blogging content and it’s not as crowded as other areas making it somewhat easy to carve a niche for yourself. Abuja is the capital city of Nigeria located in the center of the country with the federal capital territory(fct), it is a planned city and was built mainly in the 1980s replacing the most populous city of Lagos as the capital on 12th of dec 1991. Abuja is known for being one of the most purpose-built capital cities in Africa,as well as being one of the wealthiest. UN named it the fastest growing city in the world due to its growth of 139.7% in 2000 & 2010. Major sites include the Nigerian National mosque,Nigerian National Christian centre,eagle square,Central bank of Nigeria,Aso rock/villa,Nnpc towers,Abuja international conference centre,etcAbuja international conference centre National mosque One of the beautiful things about Abuja is how organized it is, hence reducing traffic situations like other major cities in Nigeria, transportation in Abuja is also a plus to the city cause its unusually cheaper than other cities,local taxi rate start from 200-1500 naira to the farthest distance excluding the airport and outskirts. Restaurants include metro cafe,ivory place,traffic bar,dunes centre,The den etc The social circle of Abuja majorly revolves around day parties (Adp,jamrock etc),pool parties,picnics cause of the numerous recreational parks littered around, Millennium park fashion shows,art exhibitions,and the club scene,with clubs like ,The Bank,Moscow,Play nightlife,crave,Caribbean etc. Hotel accommodations from 5-stars to 1-star include Transcorp Hilton,Nicon luxury,summerset,Sheraton,Traffic Missouri,Grand Cubana, sandralia amongst others. The major supermarkets and department store include Exclusive stores,sahad stores,Amigos,H-medix. Local markets include wuse market,garki international market,garki ultra modern market, utako international market. The biggest estate is called gwarimpa which holds the house of the legendary Area fada “charley boy”. There has been a recent inclusion to the outdoor activities in Abuja which is the introduction of the jabi boat club, where you can go on boat rides,jet ski and other water activities. I had a blast visiting all these places over my time in Abuja and I would love to see and hear from you all if you have visited any of these places and anywhere else I didn’t mention. Keep in touch with me on my social platforms Ig: sassybd_ Twitter: obehsylvia Facebook: obeh sylvia Snapchat: sassybd01 I love you all but God loves you more #traveldiaries #abuja #metrocafe #transcorphilton #parks #lifeinabuja

Travel diaries-A City Planned : ABUJA

“ planning always keeps you several steps ahead, don’t fail to plan

Happy sunshine beautiful ones,

How has your week been so far, it’s Thursday which means the weekend is calling my name sexually,lol. If this is your first time visiting the blog then you are most welcome 🤘🏾🤘🏾🍻🥂🍾

So I had always wanted to post up something about Abuja, I moved there when I finished uni two years ago, wow someone is getting old oh chaii.

I only wish I had taken this blog thing more seriously then,cause trust me abuja has a lot of places for blogging content and it’s not as crowded as other areas making it somewhat easy to carve a niche for yourself.

Abuja is the capital city of Nigeria located in the center of the country with the federal capital territory(fct), it is a planned city and was built mainly in the 1980s replacing the most populous city of Lagos as the capital on 12th of dec 1991. Abuja is known for being one of the most purpose-built capital cities in Africa,as well as being one of the wealthiest. UN named it the fastest growing city in the world due to its growth of 139.7% in 2000 & 2010. Major sites include the Nigerian National mosque,Nigerian National Christian centre,eagle square,Central bank of Nigeria,Aso rock/villa,Nnpc towers,Abuja international conference centre,etcAbuja international conference centre

National mosque

One of the beautiful things about Abuja is how organized it is, hence reducing traffic situations like other major cities in Nigeria, transportation in Abuja is also a plus to the city cause its unusually cheaper than other cities,local taxi rate start from 200-1500 naira to the farthest distance excluding the airport and outskirts.

Restaurants include metro cafe,ivory place,traffic bar,dunes centre,The den etc

The social circle of Abuja majorly revolves around day parties (Adp,jamrock etc),pool parties,picnics cause of the numerous recreational parks littered around,

Millennium park

fashion shows,art exhibitions,and the club scene,with clubs like ,The Bank,Moscow,Play nightlife,crave,Caribbean etc. Hotel accommodations from 5-stars to 1-star include Transcorp Hilton,Nicon luxury,summerset,Sheraton,Traffic Missouri,Grand Cubana, sandralia amongst others.

The major supermarkets and department store include Exclusive stores,sahad stores,Amigos,H-medix.

Local markets include wuse market,garki international market,garki ultra modern market, utako international market.

The biggest estate is called gwarimpa which holds the house of the legendary Area fada “charley boy”.

There has been a recent inclusion to the outdoor activities in Abuja which is the introduction of the jabi boat club, where you can go on boat rides,jet ski and other water activities.

I had a blast visiting all these places over my time in Abuja and I would love to see and hear from you all if you have visited any of these places and anywhere else I didn’t mention.

Keep in touch with me on my social platforms

Ig: sassybd_

Twitter: obehsylvia

Facebook: obeh sylvia

Snapchat: sassybd01

I love you all but God loves you more

#traveldiaries #abuja #metrocafe #transcorphilton #parks #lifeinabuja

Shoot me!!!!!!

Thisbodyisallyougot, Takecareof it”.

Hey guys,

If this is your first time coming on this blog,you are most welcome but where have you been? You should scroll through the previous posts too,am sure there’s something in there for you.

So, I have been feeling a lot of pressure over the past couple months, yes it’s been crazy running through life daily obstacles and all and I can boldly say ‘ I hate being an ADULT!!!!!.

Hey so first of all what is Adulting right? Lol I know that’s not a real word silly 🙃, Adulthood is the stage considered to having attained full size and strength, fully grown up,mature. So I have had to do a lot,think of others,their feelings and all and the things that I used to consider fun are not that fun anymore. Now I watch what I wear out,the way I speak and all and trust me it’s not been easy, growing up we always wanted to be adults, now 22years of age and I swear I wanna go back to the simpler years, where I could run under the rain with just my panties,steal birthday cakes and just talk about nothing meaningful with my friends. I want the days where a fight with my friends meant not talking for a few minutes not turning enemies forever,where every member of the family is home every night and not me thinking of what to eat every night. Oh well, I guess I have to get used to this adulting life and it’s not going easy but that’s why I have been equipped all these years by my parents,to go out there and claim territories.

Over the weekend I was opportune to do a shoot with the amazing Obinna obioma, make sure to check out his work and book a shoot with him (@mrobinnaobioma)he’s an Abuja based photographer that I have known for awhile now and we just whipped up something quick. I hope you guys love the images and do let me know how you handling your adult life, share tips with me too plssss

Blue shirts: atomosphere

Pants: forever21

Hats: souvenir

Makeup: obeh Sylvia

Remember I love you all,but God loves you more..

Xoxoxo

Obeh Sylvia

Spice up oats n DIY

Stop worrying about the future,start laying the right foundations”

-Obeh Sylvia

Hey guys,

How have you all been today? So I am currently in Uyo,akwa ibom and i have to tell you all, life here is like the exact opposite of Lagos. Uyo is the capital of akwa ibom state and it is a beautiful little town,most of the residents here own farms behind their houses,there are no taxis around town except from the airport or big hotels.I would call it a conservative town,cause the lifestyle of the people is a lot more reserved.Like the foodie I am the first thing that caught me was how cheap food is here and they are always so fresh.

I would recommend Uyo to people on sabbatical journeys and anyone else looking to relax and stay away from the hustle and bustle of other parts of the country,another thing I noticed about Uyo is the fact that you can find a thrift store and supermarket at almost every turn,because they are close to the famous Aba market which is known for a lot especially clothes,shopping has never been easier and cheaper for me than this,I visited a couple and snatched up some good Wears that has good names too(next,forever21,Dorothy Perkins etc). So I decided to have oats today and we all know how boring and tiring oats can be,but did you know that oats helps with weight loss? Bet you didn’t 😱 http://www.healthline.com/health/food-nutrition/oatmeal-diet

So I decided to add some extra extra to mine and I added my favorite fruits, banana and apple to it and trust me it tasted so juicy.

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o guys am going to be sharing with you all my first DIY. So I was looking up lip scrubs cause you know you have to keep your lips kissable at all times and I found this easy scrub made from just lime and sugar,yes just lime and sugar.

Ingredients: 1 lime

A cube of sugar

A tablespoon of honey 🍯

Couldn’t find honey,so made do with this,loved how the sugar melted into the lime.

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then I used @mmosaic_ coconut oil and lip moisturizer <<<b
pe you try this out and if you know any other easy DIY i could try,kindly share with me.

I love you all but God loves you more.

Xoxoxo

Obeh Sylvia eloho