So last month my dad decided to give our home a face lift, and just did some maintainence and renovations, am guessing that was a birthday treat to himself, hes turning 53yrs this Monday ( september 24th) ,he wanted the chairs re-done, the walls scridded and repainted and loads more, so the chairs were shipped off to the furniture home and work began on the house, everyday work was going on the house, it only got uglier because there were things everywhere, out of place and it meant more work/cleaning up had to be done when each team left everyday, trust me it was really exhausting and annoying but it was what needed to be done. Fast forward to today, the chairs have been done and they look amazing and the walls have a fresh coat on them and feels so smooth when I run my fingers through and everything literally looks better than it was, you wouldn’t even believe that only a few weeks ago it was a painful sight to see or be around and this got me thinking, I realized that so many times in life we all go through this process, the transformation and refining process, we lose friends,our jobs,money,beauty,family and it seems like the world or the worst has happened. In the search of becoming better we need to understand that this is a process we have no choice over when we are working on becoming the best version of yourself, but it’s the attitude towards the process that matters, have you made up your mind to go through it, are you ready to become UGLY so you can become the BEST version of you? Are you ready to be torn apart into different places, and to put in the work even on days when you are just not feeling it, on days when everything seems to be crumbling around you? Cause you know your goal, and people are going to say shitty things to and about you, people are going to talk down on you and your ideas, your ego is going to be bruised amongst other things, but what you are going to do is keep pushing, with your head down you are going to search yourself, build yourself up brick by brick get the energy charged up and let your strength take you through cause trust me, YOU can do it, all you ever need is YOU, get your mind set right, your determination up and never back down , go through the whole process and come out brand new, and whenever you have does down times, when you are not so pumped up, let the thought of your final stage be your motivation.
Wow look how hot that looks.0
The thought that if you 0don’t give up and see this through to the end, you are going to look, feel and be better than the way you started, Because just like gold, you must go through certain hot furnace, hitting and beating to get you into the right shape, I am currently on my refining journey, constantly searching myself, Working on my weakness (procrastination,punctuality,selfishness,honesty amongst others) and trust me honey its not one of my favorite thing to do but I going through it either ways and I already see a shift in old habits, things are not all figured out yet, am not yet at my GOLDEN STAGE, but I see it taking shape already, if I can do it and get to this stage, going through the process, I promise you can too. I know we all at one point or even right now might have gone through or are going through this process and I would love to hear how you are dealing with yours, what keeps you going? What progress you have made so far? And basically just build up a support system to endeavor that we walk through this fire and not even smell like smoke. Don’t be scared or shy to look ugly, to fail a couple of times, pick yourself up and keep pushing through. UGLY IS GOOD
I love you all, God loves us more
Obeh Sylvia Eloho Idara