So am trying not to start all my post with “hey,hi,hello” and I think I have just succeeded in achieving that lol. It’s been ages since I last posted anything and yes at first I convinced myself it was cause I didn’t have good images to accompany my message (osheyy messenger) lol,but then on turning 23,yes I know right, gradually turning to a wife material in Nigerian life code. So I got a new camera as my 23rd birthday gift,trust I was excited with the prospect of having better images and I imagined I would shoot everyday even,sadly this wasn’t to be. I made up more and more excuses why I couldn’t post,I did a couple shoots and then I made up excuses that cause the picture weren’t edited I couldn’t share them on here,cause I wanted a particular standard and i allowed myself get overwhelmed by the things that don’t necessarily matter.
I decided to write today about EXCUSES,I had a lot of other things I wanted to talk about but I realize one of my greatest challenges in life is consistency(staying through to the course). I have always been one to easily whip out an excuse for why things aren’t how I feel they should be. Why this happened this way and I was always cleverly shifting the blame from myself to others, and I only recently realized that it was a big problem I had as am sure I have a few more culprits here too lol (listen to me,looking for others to join in,don’t want to take the fall alone,see what am saying. Lol)but am sure some of us are like me too.
It’s always easier to throw someone else under the bus,let them take the blame for it,it makes us feel better,eases our conscience.
What do you understand by an Excuse?
-as defined by google : it is a reason or explanation put forward to defend or justify a fault or offense. The key words here for me are “justify” and “offense”. We are always aware of our wrong doings and know that it is wrong but to avoid dealing with the guilt,to avoid working on it,we tend to justify our actions and which most likely involves shifting blames,when this becomes a habit it becomes detrimental to our relationship with ourselves and eventually others cause it prevents growth and taking responsibility.
They always say the first step to get better is identifying and acknowledging that there’s an issue and willingness to work on it. Everyone is guilty of making excuses one way or the other,at some point in our lives but the fact is an excuse remains an excuse,it doesn’t change anything. Excuses are a waste of time,they don’t fix your problems,they only hold you back and won’t help you or your future,take it from me. I had made so many excuses for why I never posted up,why I never took certain things seriously and now when I look back,all I see are plans on papers,unachieved and some never even worked on. Making a conscious effort to ditch making excuses for why I can’t and start seeing why I must,what I can do and I know it’s a tough road but hey that’s what we are all built for; overcoming obstacles. I am sure you have faced certain situations at different phases of your life that you thought “oh well,this is the END” but hey where’s that bottleneck today??? Gone right? So quit the excuses and start taking them heads on, I was going to postpone posting today,cause I just got back from jogging and the body was weak,sleep was calling my name in “idris Alba’s voice” but I remembered that a devoted reader of my blog had screenshotted my last post and sent to me yesterday,that had sparked up my spirit,cause I hadn’t realized how much my post meant to a few people and honestly I felt inspired to put out something no matter what,and what best to talk about than this. I would like to believe that there are a few of us out there that are also struggling with making excuses and shifting blames and I looked up a few things that I have started incorporating
1: Learn about yourself and your excuses
2: Take ownership/responsibility
3: Overcoming obstacles
I will be back with more updates on how I am doing so far and hopefully with a new slate and do better,how are you guys dealing with excuses and blaming game,help a sister out!!!!!
My pictures were taken by the amazing chukwuma and I hope you enjoy this post as much as I did writing it. Don’t forget to share and leave your comments,you never know who you could be helping.
Two piece are new items from me trying to dabble into fashion designing,what do you guys think? Also am so in love with this hat,you need to hear the way I scream at home if I don’t find it where I kept it,lol .
I love you all,but God loves you more
Obeh sylvia eloho idara